Kindness is one of the most profound expressions of our humanity. It costs nothing, yet works to transform lives, ripples through communities, and changes the world. One of my favorite quotes about kindness and connection comes from Brené Brown, who beautifully states:
“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of ‘You’re not alone.’”
Brown’s words resonate deeply with me because they capture the essence of kindness—an act of giving that requires vulnerability, courage, and a genuine willingness to meet others where they are.
The Ripple Effect of Kindness
Kindness is contagious. Small gestures like a smile, a kind word, or holding the door for someone can have an impact far beyond what we can see. When we choose kindness, we inspire others to do the same, creating a ripple effect that spreads far and wide.
Research shows that kindness is more than a moral choice; it’s a biological one. Acts of kindness release feel-good hormones like oxytocin and endorphins in both the giver and the recipient, reducing stress and fostering emotional well-being. Something as simple as listening to someone with empathy and without judgment can be a transformative act, both for the person being heard and for the one offering their presence.
Kindness in the Face of Pain
Working in the eld of addiction recovery and advocating for survivors of childhood sexual abuse for over 20 years, I’ve had the humbling privilege to witness kindness in its purest form. I’ve stood alongside courageous individuals who, despite their profound pain and suffering, have given of themselves wholeheartedly to others.
I’ve seen survivors offer support to someone walking a similar path, creating a sense of belonging where shame and isolation once thrived. I’ve watched individuals battling addiction choose to lift each other up, even in the darkest moments, proving that kindness doesn’t come from abundance but from a deep understanding of shared humanity.
Kindness as Strength
Many people mistake kindness for weakness, but nothing could be further from the truth. Choosing kindness, especially in difficult circumstances, is a profound act of strength. It requires resilience, patience, and the courage to be vulnerable. When someone in recovery from addiction offers an empathetic ear to another struggling soul, they’re not just giving kindness—they’re showing remarkable inner strength. When a survivor of trauma helps others find their voice, they’re not only practicing kindness but also embodying the courage to transform pain into power.
Everyday Opportunities for Kindness
Kindness doesn’t have to be grand to matter. Every day presents opportunities to practice it in small but meaningful ways:
Equally important is practicing kindness toward ourselves. Self-compassion allows us to heal, recharge, and show up more fully for others. As Brené Brown suggests, withholding judgment and creating a safe space isn’t just something we can offer others—it’s a gift we can give ourselves too.
The Broader Impact of Kindness
Kindness creates connections, strengthens communities, and fosters resilience. In my work, I’ve seen it empower individuals to find hope, even when it felt impossible. Whether it’s a simple word of encouragement or the unwavering presence of someone who cares, kindness reminds us that we are never alone.
Movements like addiction recovery programs or advocacy for survivors are built on the foundation of collective kindness and support. These initiatives prove that kindness isn’t just an individual act—it’s a force for systemic change and healing.
Let’s Choose Kindness
Kindness counts. It counts in the small, seemingly inconsequential moments, and it counts in the life-altering ones. It has the power to bridge divides, heal wounds, and remind us of our shared humanity.
As you go about your day, consider this: What small act of kindness can you offer? Whether it’s extending empathy to someone in pain or simply being present for a friend, your kindness matters more than you might ever know.
Let’s choose kindness—today, tomorrow, and always. It’s not just a gift to others; it’s a gift to ourselves and the world around us.
by Diana Hernandez-Vojtesek